Revelation is … that Disney and Hollywood sold false expectations of the reality of relationships. As Alain de Botton speaks so clearly about (see video link below) “..the classic Romantic model has sold us on a number of self-defeating beliefs about the most essential and nuanced experiences of human life: love, infatuation, marriage ..” Marriage, even in Judaism with the belief in ‘soul mates,‘ recognizes that conflict, growth, accepting imperfectionism etc. is organic in the relationship itself. As de Botton says “My view of human nature is that all of us are just holding it together in various ways — and that’s okay, and we just need to go easy with one another, knowing that we’re all these incredibly fragile beings.” It’s such a brave act to attempt to partner up with someone and false ideas of how relationships ‘should be’ could lead us away from our loved ones instead of closer together.
16th day of the Jewish month of Teves – the month of Revelation